1. JOINT DECISION-MAKING: Both parents shall confer so that major decisions affecting the welfare of the child shall be determined jointly. Said decisions include, but are not limited to issues regarding: education, medical/dental, discipline, religion and the general upbringing of the child. (“Child” as used herein refers to any and all minor children of the parties.)
2. RESPECT AND ENCOURAGEMENT OF PARENTAL RELATIONSHIP: Each parent shall exercise, in the utmost of good faith, his or her best efforts at all times to encourage and foster the maximum relations, love and affection between the minor child and the other parent. Neither parent shall impede, obstruct or interfere with the exercise by the other parent of his or her right to a parent-child relationship with the minor child. Neither parent will encourage or teach the child to use parental names (such as “Mother, Mommy, Mom” or “Father, Daddy, Dad” ) to refer to new partners.
3. EQUAL ACCESS TO CHILD’S RECORDS: Each parent shall have access to complete records and information pertaining to the minor child including but not limited to: medical, dental, therapy, school, day care and extracurricular activity records. Each parent is encouraged to share this information when it is not readily available to the other parent.
4. NO DISPARAGEMENT OF OTHER PARENT: Neither parent shall make any disparaging remarks about the other parent or quiz the child as to the other parent’s private life. It is the child’s right to be spared from experiencing and witnessing any animosity or ill-feeling between the parents. The minor child should be encouraged to maintain love, respect and affection for both parents.
5. COURTESY BETWEEN PARENTS: The relationship between the parents shall be as businesslike as possible: courteous, relatively formal, low-key and public. Each parent shall be courteous and respectful to the other parent at all times, regardless of whether or not they feel that the other parent deserves to be treated with respect.
6. COMMUNICATION BETWEEN PARENTS AND CHILD: The non-residential parent has a duty to communicate directly with the child concerning his/her relationship with the child to the extent warranted by the child’s age and maturity level. The non-residential parent cannot expect the primary residential parent to continually act as a “buffer” or “go between.” For example, should the non-residential parent be unable to exercise visitation, the nonresidential parent should explain this directly to the child. However, this does not excuse the non-residential parent from also communicating to the residential parent changes in visitation plans, and should not interpret this paragraph in any way to use the child as a “messenger”.
7. RIGHT TO PARTICIPATION IN CHILD’S ACTIVITIES: Both parents are entitled to participate in and attend special activities in which the child is engaged, such as religious activities, school programs, sports events and other extracurricular activities and important social events in which the child is involved. Each parent should keep the other parent notified of these events and provide the other parent with a written schedule, if available. If there is no written schedule, each parent shall notify the other as soon as possible of the dates and times of any scheduled event.
8. CHILD’S LAST NAME: The child shall not be referred to by any last name other than the one listed on his or her birth certificate.
9. PARENTS TO DISCUSS CHANGES IN CHILD’S LIFE: Each parent has a duty to discuss with the other parent the advantages and disadvantages of all major decisions regarding the child and to work together in an effort to reach joint decisions. For example, this duty would include an obligation to discuss a decision to change the child’s school, church or any medical providers.
10. PARENTS’ RIGHT TO CARE FOR CHILD: Each parent has the responsibility to offer to the other parent the opportunity to care for the child, whenever reasonably possible, on those occasions when that parent is away for more than three hours due to work or social obligations. That is, each parent shall have a right, superior to that of all third parties, to care for the child in the other parent’s absence.
11. NOTICE OF WHEREABOUTS OF CHILD; NOTICE OF EMERGENCY: Neither parent shall conceal the whereabouts of the child, and each parent will keep the other reasonably advised at all times of the residential address and phone numbers where the child will be staying while with the other parent. Each parent shall notify the other parent immediately (as soon as possible but in no event more than three